KANSAS CITY, Mo. – Dwight Smith and his mother made several trips to Ireland over the years, reveling in the beauty of the Killarney lakes in the southwest corner of the country.
When Smith's mother died in August, there was no question she would be cremated – a request she had made often – or that her remains would be scattered near the lakes.
But Smith, of New London, Conn., said he didn't have the time or resources to make the trip now and wanted to fulfill his mother's wishes soon.
“What she doesn't want to be is in Long Island Sound,” he said.
Checking with a mortician friend, he hooked up with the International Scattering Society in the Kansas City suburb of Lee's Summit, a sort of travel agency for the cremated dead that offered to handle, for a fee, all the paperwork and logistics required in taking his mother's remains overseas. This month, one of the society's members will scatter the ashes in Killarney, providing Smith with video or photos of the event.
“I feel that it will be done in a better way than I could have done,” he said. “My mother would be happy that someone who likes doing this is doing this.”
The dead are not content to just sit on the mantle anymore.
As the number of cremations grow – 32 percent of U.S. deaths led to cremation in 2005, compared with 21 percent in 1996, according to the National Funeral Directors Association – the demand has risen among friends and family seeking out companies and organizations that can help them deal with the remains, either fulfilling their loved one's wishes or finding a final resting place more exotic than a family urn.
Bill Metzger, for example, said he's seen a 50 percent increase in customers over the past year for his business, Final Flights, which uses his Piper Cherokee to scatter ashes above Southern California sites. He said he does six to 10 scatterings a month at a cost of $300 to $500, depending on distance and fuel prices.
“When I get a call and I explain what we do, people are stunned; they didn't know something like this existed,” Metzger said. “It just seemed an uplifting – no pun intended – happy way of doing things, as opposed to a somber scattering at sea or placing in a columbarium (crypt).”
Mark Smith, president of the Chicago-based Cremation Association of North America, said the majority of cremated remains still go home with loved ones for burial or safekeeping. But his association did a study last year that found that 21.7 percent of remains are destined to be scattered, up from 17.8 percent in 1997.
The most popular scattering option is water, according to the Cremation Association's study, although land-based scattering has grown from 27 percent to 40 percent since 1997.
Wes Heinmiller, owner of Newport Beach-based Atlantis Society, said his company does about 400 scattering ceremonies a year off the coasts of California and Washington state. His service costs $1,000 to $1,200 per ceremony, including the cost of chartering his 67-foot yacht.
Joanie West of Crystal River, Fla., has taken a different angle on air scattering with her 10-year-old company, The Eternal Ascent Society. With the help of the family or by herself, she launches the cremated remains inside a large helium-filled balloon. Once it reaches a height of five miles, it pops, distributing the ashes to the winds.
“It's something that's beautiful when they see it,” said West, who is setting up franchises in Las Vegas, Seattle and New Jersey and charges from $995 to $1,500 per service, depending on how far the coordinator has to travel. “I tell them that when it scatters, it's going all over the universe.”
